When it comes to sex – wetter is better! But frequently our bodies are not able to produce the amount of lubrication necessary. There is sometimes a stigma surrounding the need to use lube, especially for women, and that there is an inadequacy associated with not being able to get ‘wet enough’. Whether you are alone or with a partner, they are needed to help you get closer, connect, and last longer. Learn why you need lubricants and how to choose the right personal lubricant for you.
Why do you need to use personal lubricants?
Our bodies normally produce enough natural lubricant to be comfortable every day. However, if you are having regular intercourse or using toys, you may need more than what nature provides, especially if you are experiencing hormonal changes, or on long term medications or experiencing stress.
If you are using toys, it is always smart to use a personal lubricant. Toys tend to dry up in the long run, as they are exposed to air, making for uncomfortable re-entry.
For anal sex, keep in mind that the anus produces no moisture of its own, so it is always essential to use anal lubricant with anal play.
In case you are concerned, using a personal lubricant it is not a sign of a broken body or a failed libido, it’s very normal.
Do you need to use personal lubricant if you produce a lot of vaginal moisture?
You may still want to use a lubricant because with a wide variety to choose from, they now have added sensation experiences.
Should you buy what your friend recommends?
Just because your friend recommends a particular type or brand of lubricant, it does not mean that it will work for you. It is normal for people to have different physical reactions and preferences. Find what works best for you!
Hopefully, you now understand how important personal lubricant, features as a part of the experience. The next step is to choose your base.
Water Based Lubricants
The first ingredient is water or aloe. Feels cool on the skin and may get sticky after a few minutes, slippery, but it also tends to dry up. It can be reactivated by adding little water or saliva. It is the most common type used with vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse, oral sex, and masturbation.
They offer the most variety of sensations, flavours, warming, tightening and stimulation. Easily removed from your body with water, without feeling sticky. The products do not stain any materials unless there is colouring in the ingredients. They are compatible with all toys and any kind of condom available.
A small amount of silicone can be added (which produces a white or creamy lubricant) – feels slippery not sticky yet is still thin, while leaving the skin silky smooth when dry.
Silicone Based Lubricants
The product will always feel slippery but never sticky or tacky. A little goes a long way for this product and will create a longer lasting glide than water-based lubricants. It is an excellent option for water play that never dries up. It is compatible with latex, rubber, glass & plastic toys. Lastly can be used with vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse, masturbation, and body massage
Warning: Do not use with Silicone Toys. It breaks down the silicone of the toy and may start to give off an unpleasant odour.
High quality lubricants (with only 2-3 ingredients) are inert and will not change a woman’s pH level, i.e. no threat of yeast infections. This may leave a slightly oily residue on sheets, but it washes away with soap & water.
Once you have chosen your base, now you need to decide what variety you want
Flavoured – Designed to enhance oral intercourse
Stimulating or warming – Goes on cool and warms with friction; Designed to increase sensation for both partners; Contains active ingredients like menthol or pepper that increases blood flow and awaken nerve endings
Anal – A thicker lubricant that stays on the skin longer provides more comfort by reducing friction & sensation
Women – Thinner lubricant where you feel more sensation without friction; Perfect as a “kick starter” until her own moisture takes over.