You are ready to buy yourself a toy! Where the heck do you start? To answer the question “What toy should I get?”, you first need to ask yourself some questions. Read the following questions, write down your answers as you go, and when you are finished, you will have a custom list of needs that your new toy must meet. Take this list with you when you shop and use it as a reference for your decision.

Where?

First question – where is this toy going to be used on your body? Think about your anatomy and what areas of your body you want to stimulate. Feel free to venture out into other erogenous zones other than your genitals. Are there multiple areas you would like to stimulate?

When?

Next, when are you going to be using this toy? Is it for partnered sex, masturbation, or both? Think about all the circumstances where do you want your toy to make an appearance. Will it live in your dresser drawer? Will it accompany you in your bag on a business trip or on your next date?

How?

Think about the kind of sensations you enjoy and what truly gets you aroused. Do you like deep and hard penetration? Are you partial to a light, sensitive touch in all the right places? Even if you are completely new to masturbation or sex, most of us prefer different amounts of pressure and touch. Think about how hard you like to hug someone, how do you like to get a massage, or if you are easily tickled. Though these are not perfect indicators, it does give you some insight into the sensations you prefer. Using these observations, ask yourself if you would enjoy a toy that penetrates, vibrates or maybe both.

Another part of the ‘how’ has to do with your preferred sexual positions. Do you masturbate on your stomach and therefore need something that can slip between your body and the bed? Do you prefer to stand and therefore will benefit from a toy with a strong grip or a tether? If you are using it for partnered sex, think about the position you and your partner(s) frequently use and how a toy could fit into that.

Our recommendations on where to start

If you are new to vibrators and do not know where to begin, start with a clitoral stimulating item. We suggest a bullet vibe, a finger vibe, or an external vibrator.

Why?

Bear in mind everyone is different, will have different needs, and different preferences. Statistics show that 70% of women need dual stimulation to orgasm and are unable to have orgasms through intercourse alone. Meaning that clitoral agitation is required. A product specifically designed with good clitoral stimulation is a great place to start. Most vibrators can stimulate the clitoris, however different shapes and intensities need to be considered in your choice. Smaller and discreet shapes like the bullet and finger vibes, will focus directly on the clitoris alone.

Larger external vibrators are designed to conform to the curves of one’s internal anatomy and make contact directly with the clitoris and vulva (G-Spot). These products offer more power and speed intensities and/or patterns than a smaller vibrator.

Wand massagers are also clitoral vibrators however have a larger handle and have either plug-in, corded electric power or are rechargeable. This type of clitoral vibrator is usually immensely powerful.

For Experienced Users

Stimulation Types

Internal Stimulation – Internal vibrators are much longer than clitoral vibrators and are easy to hold during insertion. If you desire a sense of fullness or want to focus on the G-spot alone (those vibrators usually have a curved tip), there is a variety to choose from. These luxury vibrators have a dual capability of stimulation and can also be used as clitoral vibrators.

Internal & Clitoral Stimulation – Dual stimulation or rabbit vibrators give you lots of options. You can choose to stimulate the clitoris or the G-spot or both at the same time.

Clitoral Stimulation During Sex – If you are interested in clitoral stimulation during sex, then Vibrating Penis Rings or Couples Vibrators are your best option.

Power – Consider trying a more powerful vibrator or an electric vibrator.

Versatility – Some vibrators are more versatile than others, whereby they can be used for clitoral, G-spot, or anal stimulation. Hands-free vibrators are excellent sex toys that free your hands so that they can do other pleasurable things!

Some Food for thought

Size – Does size matter? Um…YES! If the vibrator is too big and makes you or your partner uncomfortable or causes pain in any way, then it is not for you. You will still need to consider comfort and ease.

Power – How many speeds or pulse patterns do you want? Do you enjoy a steady pulse, or do you like to mix it up?

Most luxury vibrators are now rechargeable, so you do not have to worry about running out of batteries or your vibrator running out of juice. Rechargeable vibrators are more expensive than battery operated vibrators but think how much you will be saving in the long run.

No one wants a noisy vibrator. It can be distracting, but also non-discreet. Luckily, luxury vibrators are all virtually silent.