The G-spot is easiest to locate when a woman is sexually aroused when the tissue is swollen, making the area firmer than the rest of the surrounding vaginal wall. Many people find it easier to have someone else locate their G-spot.
To stimulate the G-spot…
…have the woman lay on her back and use lubricant on your index or middle finger
…insert the finger into the vagina as far as it will easily go
…run your finger along the top wall of the vagina
…feel for an area that feels different from the rest of the tissue
…if you find that spot, make a “come hither” motion/curling your fingers upward so that your fingers are pressing towards her belly button
…do not forget to use a fair amount of pressure when massaging the G-spot, as it will become more swollen and firmer with increased stimulation.
If you are lucky enough to find the G-spot, the G-spot area needs direct stimulation with firm and constant pressure. This G-spot orgasm creates a more intense and powerful orgasm than a clitoral orgasm. Massaging the G-spot can also produce multiple orgasms and help you orgasm during penetration.
G-spot stimulation can sometimes produce female squirting. Women sometimes ejaculate due to the release of fluids from the Skene’s glands in the urethra when the G-spot is massaged. This can happen with or without an orgasm.
When the G-spot is stimulated, some women may initially feel an urge to urinate. This is normal. The feeling goes away once the G-spot is swollen and perhaps a potential orgasm is on its way. (If this sensation makes you nervous, try urinating prior to getting started, and lie on a towel as you begin to explore.)
Some people believe that the intensity of a woman’s G-spot orgasm is aided by the hormone oestrogen. Most women under 30 find clitoral orgasms to be stronger. Due to their high oestrogen levels, their vaginal lining is too thick to access the G-spot nerves. As the oestrogen levels decline in their 30’s, the vaginal lining is thinner, and the G-spot is more accessible.
Do not be discouraged if you cannot find it. Some women do not feel anything while others feel discomfort. Remember what works for someone else may not work for you.
You can also try a G-spot vibrator or G-spot dildo if your fingers are not sufficient. The best G-spot vibrators are hard because the G-spot responds to pressure and is curved to target the upper vaginal wall. Likewise, G-spot dildos are curved with a prominent head. Many people prefer heavier G-spot dildos because it helps them to put the necessary pressure on the G-spot.